This essay is a sprawling effort to capture the events and attitudes that led to undoing of the union. It was no small task to put together. It will be no small task to write. For me this is the culmination of a year spent with people I want happiness for and care deeply about. At the start of the year, my goal was to take the fog and mystique out of writing. The written word is a craft, a trade, something we can all do well with practice. Analyzing, criticizing, and making the complex clear is writing. Now do that.